Happily Ever After: Carnival of Aros

 The Carnival of Aros' prompt for December 2020 is Happy Ending. Oh, I just realized that's probably because it's the "end" of the year :P

Happiness is an ongoing process, not a one-and-done-dead-end-deal. Happiness takes work to set up and maintain and problem solve. Happiness can require you to push through discomfort, like risking rejection, or starting a passion project you will probably do terribly at first, or flossing.

Happiness is paying attention to small happinesses along the way. My neighborhood has been decorating the path with ornaments and holiday knick knacks. I saw a little gnome in a tree, it was cute and surprising and new and heartwarming that the community is doing this together to make each other happy. 

What makes me happy may change. I may discover that in reality the kinds of relationships I thought would make me happy, don't. But I can't know that until I try. And I can't really try while there's quarantining (I could kind of try). And even once I start trying, there's no set time frame or guarantee I'll find whatever it is I'm looking for.

I don't know what my happy ending will look like, and I am comfortable with that uncertainty. 

  

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  1. VioletEmeraldJanuary 4, 2021 at 10:25 PM

    I love this reminder that happiness is in the journey and is an ongoing thing to maintain, not an "Ending". :)

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